What is the best way to make contact with my absent father?

I have never known my father since my mom left him before I had any memory of him and I never had the opportunity to meet him since. I've always known that someday I would like to meet or at least contact him. Well, today my mom found him on a social networking site. She called me to give me the link. I am grown and out of her house but she let me know that she wants me to proceed very cautiously and anonomously in contacting him. I agreed to this, especially since he admits to being bi polar in his biography. In his online posts he seems like a very decent person but one can never tell. So, first of all, what is the best way to begin contact with him? On the site he's a member of it looks like I could email him if I register. I also found a page with his actual email address posted. So I don't know if I should email him through the site or on my own. Also, whichever way I contact him, what are some tips to keep myself anonomous and safe? This type of thing is a complete first for me.

What is the best way to make contact with my absent father?
My suggestion would be to go through the site, to help keep anonymity. Perhap's you could ask question's about what it would be like to have children. You know, lightly chat it up. I'm no expert, but being Bipolar isn't the end of the world. Still yes, I would say be cautious. TIP: There are many Fathers/Mothers who wish everyday they had contact with an estranged child, but do not know how to contact them, or even if the child would want to be contacted. They're scared too! I have helped a few people I knew, contact their children they lost contact with, due to divorce. Fortunately it turned out to be a good thing!
Reply:If it is possible to get his REAL address, I highly recommend sending a snail-mail letter. It will be less obtrusive, less likely to get lost in the world of spam, harder to delete, and more likely to make an impression. Either way, just tell him who you are and why you are writing and ask him how he is doing. Bi-polar does not make people insane or anything. My wife is bi-polar and perfectly normal! That is the least of your problems. The most likely problem will be that he may simply not be interested in talking to you. Be prepared for the worst... but hope for the best. Good luck!
Reply:I suggest you take your time to think what you really mean to tell him, go straight to the point, and first of all, let him know that you want to open that very needed relationship and that you want to have that loving feeling towards him "if you do".





God Bless :)
Reply:You could email him and setup a meeting in a public place.





If you're real curious and want to keep your distance, hire a private detective to get information.

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