Is this OK....for the first time I am asking a ques because I REALLY need some advice?

I have no plans disclosing my orientation to anyone at least for 10 yrs.But if someone asks me,"Do you support homosexuality?",I'll say an outright,"yes".


On a social networking site,I have my profile with all my coll and school friends;my point is that on my profile I am not anonymous as I am here at Y!A.


So recently,I joined some "Support for Homosexuality" type of communities there.And I got friend requests from 2 girls from my own country.Genrally,I don't think much and approve all requests even from ppl I havn't met.


so,I did that and later when I saw their profiles,I discovered that they declared themselves as gay and interested in frnds and dating.


So,gay girls+my own country=ppl like me who think like me and face problems like I do.


what I liked about them was that I did not see any offensive or porn content on their profiles,they seemed to be just admitting that they were gay,making online frnds who r not homophobic and can accept them as they are.


so like is this OK...

Is this OK....for the first time I am asking a ques because I REALLY need some advice?
I don't see where you have a problem. If no one knows, except two online girls you've never met and you only write to, then I don't see a problem. These girls aren't going to force you to tell your parents. If I'm missing the whole point, please feel free to e-mail me. Good luck.
Reply:Hi Andy!





I'm straight, and I had no trouble understanding you! You're worried it might seem dishonest not to disclose your sexual preference to these online women who say they're lesbian. But hey, this is the VIRTUAL world, and all of us who aren't terminally naive are protecting our privacy on here. Everyone is keeping SOMETHING in reserve. You have a perfect right to your privacy.





If these women are as mature as you say, I am sure they would respect your decision, not only due to the perils of disclosure on-line, but because of your youth.





You are very wise to make careful judgements about what to disclose and to whom. Just carry on with your life and get your financial independence as you planned!





All the best - Zucchinis.
Reply:Well your not that anonymous here at Y/A any more ..





Im confused first sentence you say your not going to disclose your orientation anyone at least for 10 years - but then you go on to say you have disclosed it on this other social networking site - then you say you dont mind your friends knowing and that your happy people who have contacted you have no porn on your profile - you talk about gay people in your own country with profiles just admitting they are gay - near the end you say its just your parents you want to hide it from...





lastly you ask if this is ok .... sorry but Im confused and I think you might be too - so do you want to stay in the closet or do you want to be out - do you just not want your parents to know or do you not want anyone to know?





As for is this ok - is WHAT ok? I think you need to clearly think out your question and ask again as you contradicted yourself in that text several times
Reply:firstly it is fine to be gay enjoy go for it have a ball dont be shy other than that i dont understand your question i think that you are giving yourself a hard time for no real reason just let it go it s all good i am a lesbian and i love it
Reply:Your life is your life...Your sexual orientation is no one elses business.





Be who and what you are and try to be happy. Don't let anyone tell you that you should be "loud and proud" and have to come out of the closet.





Coming out is an individual decision. That is most important to remember.
Reply:Whatever you are most comfortable with is okay as long as you aren't pretending to be someone you aren't. My friend and I are both gay and out, but we live in Australia, so if you'd like to join as friends you can at www.myspace.com/bellstattooist or www.myspace.com/lovefatbuddha


You don't have to be out to want gay companions, and you don't have to be gay to want them either. just follow your heart and if you aren't comfortable in declaring your sexuality, don't let anyone tell you different. The best of luck to you.
Reply:I would keep the online friends because they are who you support. They may not be UR type but at least they might know somebody who is.
Reply:I guess it would depend on who exactly you're wanting it to be o'kay with. I could understand if a gay friend on your list would be offended by you wanting to associate with them, but not be associated with them by others (kind of like by hiding the fact that you're gay makes you seem ashamed of it, and thereby ashamed of their homosexuality as well). But I could understand where many wouldn't be bothered by it at all, as most of them probably had a difficult time coming out to their families too, or haven't come out yet at all and are in the same boat.





This is just one of those situations where you can't please everyone, so you have to please yourself. If others criticize the way you choose to do it, tell them to get over it.
Reply:wot eva floats ya boat