How would you react if you found out on several occasions that your boyfriend paid for online porn?

I've nosed around and discovered a few times that my boyfriend has paid memberships at online porn social networking/cam sites. I haven't discovered anything like this in the past year or so though. But I do know that when it happened, I didn't know how I much apology I deserved. I am thinking of marrying this guy. Is this something you think he will quit doing forever, or since he's such a repeat offender are the chances more likely he will always be compelled toward such dabbling? Thank you...

How would you react if you found out on several occasions that your boyfriend paid for online porn?
First of all, shame on your for spying on him. Everyone deserves to have a private life.





You don't deserve an apology. Every man looks at porn. You will either forgive him for it, or find yourself a new man who also looks at pornography but hides it from you better.





What would I say? I'd say, "You PAID for it? When there's so much available for free?!"
Reply:all guys watch porn, its nothing to worry about
Reply:I would question why he's paying for porn when there are so many free websites.





I'm insecure as hell and hate when my boyfriend looks at porn. Problem? He got a job in a porn store at one point. I have to deal with it.





Tell him it bothers you. You can't expect him to NEVER look at it, but he should at least cut back for you.





You could always watch it with him and comment on how well endowed the males are. Maybe he will understand insecurity.
Reply:GET mad and talk to him
Reply:well the three f's for a guy are food football and f- yea u know





if hes lacking in one of those ends and needs to satisfy himself then he will.





If your gunna marry him then maybe you should step up if he ever does it again.


then again its kinda creepy you were watching him and digging to find that stuff out to begin with.
Reply:I would be mad. He's not going to change. And marrying him won't help. Get out while you can!
Reply:Oh No!! Red Flag. Please dump this jerk before your heart gets beyond broken.
Reply:It's normal. Guys do it all the time, but there's more for free. The porn business makes over $10 billion a year. Also, if you want to marry him, you've got to trust him, which is why it was wrong of you to look on his computer. Now you've lost your trust in him because your a nosy b*t*h, and now you can't marry him.
Reply:I'd be fine with it.. and recommend free sites
Reply:I have to agree, a majority of men watch porn, its pretty much the same as saying a majority of women love shopping. And yes I know porn and shopping aren't the same, but I think you know what I mean. But hey, its better then him paying for it out on the street, picking up prostitutes and hookers, at least you know where he's at, better for him to be there at home then at some broads house.
Reply:I would be very concerned and even mad i would get to the point with him immediately to find out what is going on there are a lot of people that get hooked on porn and it becomes an addiction like booze or drugs so see to it now , myself i would walk away it seems like such a big battle i don't think i would have the energy but I'm not in love with your guy so its up to you what you want to invest emotionally good luck
Reply:masterbation for guys are normal. its fine...breathe
Reply:He'll just keep doing it. It's an addiction. And off topic, he's dumb for paying for porn when there is so much free porn out there.





But seriously, it's not likely to stop without some major effort. It's like drinking or drugs.
Reply:its healthy but not to pay .