Can a person truly have 100 real, close friends?

from an online social networking site? Or would they be more like casual acquaintances? Is that like an ego boost to add so many people to your network? From what I saw, they appear to be other members of the same site. Why would someone want so many "friends?" What's the purpose? Does a person really want or even need that many to connect or feel a sense of connection, even if it may be on a superficial level? I remember in college a friend of mine took a class (it could've been sociology but i don't recall exactly) and she told me the teacher said that if you have at least one friend you're doing good. Something like that. And by friend the teacher meant a real one with whom you can share your deepest feelings. Personally I don't call casual acquaintances or strangers I've never met - friends. In real life, for me it's quality over quantity. I'd prefer to have a few close friends than lots of them where there is no real, deeper friendship connection beyond shared interests.

Can a person truly have 100 real, close friends?
First, being a friend on the internet is not really a true, deep friendship. Its only based on writing or talking. True friendship develops based on shared experiences, like holding a friends hand in times of crisis and dancing together in the good times. Its based on years of interaction, deep caring, and really feeling like you would do anything to help the other person.To truly have this level of friendship, there needs to be some sort of real -not virtual- interaction.





Here is a good test of friendship. If your friend lives 250 miles away, and you need her to drop everything to come help you deal with the death of a family member, will she?


Would the people from a "social networking site' leave their job, get a babysitter, and just come be with you and hold your hand while you get through it? That is a real friend.





My second thing is that while its possible to care about a large number of people (like members of a church congregation do, or a fraternity, or a school class), its really truly impossible to give true friendship to all of them. You may like them all, care about them, but even if your full time job was being a friend, you couldn't possibly have enough time to really be that involved in 100 peoples lives.





I am very blessed to have this kind of friendship with 3 people outside my family. My husband has 5 lifetime buddies that he would do anything for. When you add in their spouses, our families, and our nieces and nephews, we have a very rich life, a busy life, and a happy one. There are many people we care about, who are part of our lives, and that we love.





My best friend of all is my husband. This is the basis of our marriage, and the strongest foundation I can imagine.





At different times of your life, you have different types of friends. The true test is time. There were lots of kids I called friends as a kid, who just by circumstance, changes in life, whatever, we are no longer in contact. Can't even remember who some of the people I wrote about in my college journals are!





You are right...its quality that matters, not quantity.
Reply:i do not want to know a 100 people let alone be that freindly that they think they are freinds lol


i can only cope with a handfull
Reply:one you are lucky,two you are extremely lucky,three greatest.
Reply:100 close friends? I do not think so. To have so many friends it would take a lot of time to develop this many people into close friends. Acquaintences , yes. But close, no. There is not enough hours in the day to keep up the friendships of this many.
Reply:Maybe over a lifetime. Not at this one moment in time. There is only 24 hours in a day.
Reply:2 handfuls Max.

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